Stop Being “Good”

Photo credit: Mount Washington Observatory, 2013

Photo credit: Mount Washington Observatory, 2013

In our house we have a rule: You can’t use a four letter word to describe your day.

When we gather at the dinner table and someone asks about your day you better not say “good”, “fine”, or “okay”. Even the most mediocre day deserves a more elaborate response.

In our house we believe in communicating. It’s what keeps family alive. It’s what keeps us connected to each other. It keeps us interested, and interesting.

“My day was amazing, dad.”
“Oh, yeah? Why?”

It’s not enough to simply make a declarative statement. Be ready to back that statement up. At every turn in your life people are going to challenge you. They’re going to challenge not only your opinion, but your beliefs. Be ready. Don’t toss out empty ideas that you think will be quickly accepted. It’s okay to disagree, but do it smartly.

And hey, it’s okay to have a bad day, too. Shit happens. It’s good to come home to an open ear, one that doesn’t judge, or jump to provide a solution that you didn’t ask for.

Sometimes you just need to be heard.

We recognize that the only true failure is the one that forces you to declare defeat. Success isn’t measured by how many times you fall, but in how you choose to rise up and try again.

Winning is great. Working for that win, earning that win, is even greater. We’re not sore losers, or arrogant winners. Compassion is at the heart of everything we do – because we’re all connected to each other, and we’re all dependent upon each other.

In our house we’re not dreamers. We don’t talk about “I wish”. We talk about “I do”, or “I’m doing”. Tomorrow isn’t a guarantee. You get today. That’s all there is. Make it count.

Money doesn’t buy you anything, except for stuff. True joy and happiness comes from being with people you love, and who love you. And at the end of our lives, that is the only thing that matters. Not a payraise. Not a promotion. Not straight “A’s”.

This blog is dedicated to greatness, to discovering the joy in every moment, to celebrating failures, and to rising to challenges. It’s about being inspired, and recognizing that the best things emerge from not settling for “good”.

Life has a whole range of emotions and experiences waiting for us. Adventure isn’t out there. It’s right here, right now. It’s in every moment of every day.